One of the key issues of modesty is not drawing attention to yourself but rather drawing attention to your countenance and to Christ. In order to truly be modest, a lady should be revealing Christ in her life, not her body.
1 Pet 3:1-4 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; (2) While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. (3) Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; (4) But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
The lady should be respectful of her husband’s wishes. When he is asking her to be modest, she must respect his wishes. In fact, the lady should seek her husband’s opinion about modest. She should allow her husband to consider what she is wearing and determine what is or is not appropriate. The husband knows what attracts a man’s eye and can help steer the wife away from things that would not be appropriate. Continue reading
Gen 3:1-6 Now the serpent was more subtle than any beast of the field which the LORD God had made. And he said unto the woman, Yea, hath God said, Ye shall not eat of every tree of the garden? (2) And the woman said unto the serpent, We may eat of the fruit of the trees of the garden: (3) But of the fruit of the tree which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die. (4) And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die: (5) For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. (6) And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
The serpent here was described as subtle. In fact, we know this particular serpent was Satan himself. Someone who is subtle is someone who is sly, who can easily deceive someone. The devil was being subtle to convince Eve to sin. However, in the Word of God, there is another kind of person who is described as subtle:
Prov 7:10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtle of heart.
When we take the passages we have studied so far and put them together, it becomes easy to imagine how Eve convinced Adam to eat the fruit. True, she was enticed by the devil as he lied to her. However, I can imagine her going to Adam and showing him the fruit. Perhaps winking at him and begging him with her flattering words to eat. Likewise, the harlot is described as subtle of heart. In a previous section, we discussed how the devil often uses women as bait in his snare. The harlot is another kind of woman Satan uses as bait. No one would debate that the harlot is a trap. However, how many other women are walking around with the attire and language of a harlot and do not realize it?
The attire of a harlot includes more than her clothing. Likewise, the attire of a harlot is subtle. If a man is not careful and vigilant, he will quickly be ensnared by her. Once in her snare, his testimony or life could easily be destroyed. Sadly, there are many women walking around us every day who are adorned in the attire of the harlot. If you approached some of these women and accused them of being a harlot, they would be deeply offended. As we will see, many of them unwittingly occupy our churches in every service. So, what is the attire of the harlot?
Prov 7:10-12 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtle of heart. (11) (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house: (12) Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)
The true harlot is clearly dressed in a certain way. She reveals her body in a way that it intended to attract a customer. The harlot is also acting in a very specific way and she is speaking a specific way. We understand why she is dressed the way she is, but why is she acting and talking the way she does? For the same reason: she is advertising what she has to offer. She is advertising her product and setting a trap for a man. Is the man who takes the bait without guilt? Of course not! If a man takes her bait, he is guilty, but she has set a trap for him! Likewise, a woman who has adorned herself in the attire of a harlot has also set a trap for a man. Sadly, she may not even realize it.
The harlot is dressed in a certain way, and she dresses that way so that she can sell her product. She is dressed to show off her product – her body. She knows that most men are drawn in by their eyes. When men see the body of an attractive woman, men are naturally excited and drawn to her. At the site of an attractive woman’s body, a man is tempted to sin. Everyone with any common sense knows this. Every woman wants to be considered attractive. Who is she trying to attract? The way a woman is clothed certainly reveals whether she is concerned with attracting men or not. However, there is more to the attire of a harlot than the clothes she is (or is not) wearing. As we learned already, she is subtle. In other words, she is a flirt. She is the one who is always talking and drawing men to her with her actions and words. Yes, it is immodest to be a flirt and a harlot is also a flirt! The harlot is also loud. She wants you to know she is there. The harlot is also stubborn. In fact, most immodest women will refuse to admit these simple truths are a part of who they are!
1 Cor 6:19-20 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? (20) For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.
The harlot is dressing in a certain way because she has something to sell. However, as Christians, we have nothing to sell. We have already been purchased by the Blood of Christ! Our bodies are not our own to do with as we please. As Christians, we belong to God. We cannot do as we wish, we are to glorify God with our bodies. The Apostle Paul referred to himself as a servant (Rom 1:1). Literally, Paul was referring to himself as a man who is so indebted to another that he would be considered to be a slave. When a Christian exposes her body or acts as a harlot does, she is not glorifying God in any way! When a woman acts in this way, she is merely advertising what she has to sell.