Guidelines for Dating
When you and your parents deicide that you are ready to look for someone, you should only consider someone who is saved, spiritually mature and serving God. Of course, you should already be saved and serving God. In fact, we are commanded to do this:
II Corinthians 6:14-15 “Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?”
To know where someone is spiritually, you must already have a causal relationship with the person you are considering. The ideal place to meet a potential date, and develop this causal relationship with them is in church. You must already know the person to some degree. In addition to this, when you consult your authorities, you are also conducting somewhat of a background check on them, right? Again, your youth pastor or pastor will know the spiritual condition of the one you are considering. In addition to being saved, and serving God, they should be headed in the same direction you are. For example, if you are called to be a missionary, and the person you are considering is not, then the relationship is not to be considered. If you are called to be a missionary, God likely has a missionary for you, or He intends you to go to the field alone. God will never lead you to a confusing position or to a position where you must choose between a mate or serving Him. Some people have discovered that they could serve God best alone. In these cases, they find that God provides them all the companionship they ever need. Paul showed us himself as an example of this when he was inspired by God to write in I Corinthians 7:1-2: “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.” Many people believe God was telling us that it was best that we never be married. These people believe that God was telling us that we should be celibate and completely focused on God. However, celibacy for everyone does not make sense. God designed us to be social, and to reproduce. While a spouse would be a hindrance to the ministry of some, God’s plan for the vast majority of us is to have a spouse. In fact, some cults such as the Catholic Church forbid their leaders to enter into the God-ordained covenant of marriage. This not only creates an enormous amount of temptation, but also the practice of forbidding people to marry is one of the doctrines of devils described in I Timothy 4:1-3. I believe that this false doctrine is one of the major causes of the rampant sexual abuse of children in the Catholic Church. Continue reading
“If you think you can’t fall into sexual sin, then you’re godlier than David, stronger than Samson, and wiser than Solomon” (Pastor Bill Perkins).
As I considered writing Perfectly Pure, I spent a great deal of time considering my own daughter. What did I want for her. I came to the conclusion that what I wanted for my daughter was everything I was not as a teenage boy. The primary goal for this book was defined. I wanted parents and teens to realize that no one can be trusted with their own flesh. I want fathers to remember what they were like as young, unmarried men. I hope men will remember what was in their hearts and minds before they were married. When they recall this truth, I pray they will protect their children as though they were protecting their children from who they were as a teen.
My second prayer is that Perfectly Pure will be read by parents and their children, then used to spark open and frank discussion about God’s purpose for marriage and God’s plan for purity. Continue reading